Is this all the investing advice you’ll ever need?
Wall Street and its representatives often make investing more complicated than necessary to give investors the idea that they are helpless on their own. University of Chicago professor Harold Pollack has gained acclaim recently for insisting that all the important financial advice you need can fit on one side of a 4×6 index card. When I first heard this, I thought, “How small did he print?” A picture of the index card reveals that Pollack provided nine pieces of advice, written in rather large print. Let’s take a look at the professor’s recommendations to see if they contain all the financial advice you need.
1. Max your 401(k) or equivalent employee contribution.
This is a good piece of general advice — once you’ve first paid off any high-interest consumer debt and accumulated an appropriate cash reserve. For workers with no 401(k) company match, it might be better to contribute to a Roth IRA or a traditional IRA.
2. Buy inexpensive, well-diversified mutual funds such as Vanguard’s Target 20xx funds.
I’m not a big fan of target-date funds, and Vanguard’s target-date funds contain just a few asset classes. But they’re better than loaded, actively managed funds.
3. Never buy or sell an individual security. The person on the other side of the table knows more than you do about that stuff.
Maybe they do, and maybe they don’t. But there’s no doubt that owning individual securities is riskier than owning a well-diversified stock fund. Additionally, it’s unlikely that you know something about a company that isn’t already factored into its stock price.
4. Save 20% of your money.
5. Pay your credit-card balance in full every month.
6. Maximize tax-advantaged savings vehicles like Roth, SEP and 529 accounts.
This sounds a lot like No. 1, so I guess there are only eight things investors need to know.
7. Pay attention to fees. Avoid actively managed funds.
This sounds a lot like No. 2, so I guess there are only seven things investors need to know.
8. Make your financial advisor commit to a fiduciary standard.
9. Promote social-insurance programs to help people when things go wrong.
9A. Vote for people who will let you keep more of your own money.
10. Make sure you have adequate amounts of umbrella, disability and life insurance — just in case.
11. Keep your estate-planning documents up to date.
Note to all collectors — your children don’t want your stuff, they want their own stuff.
12. If you have to choose, make saving for your retirement a higher priority than saving for your kids’ college.
13. Don’t kid yourself. You probably know less about financial planning and investing than you realize.
14. There is no perfect portfolio — yours should emphasize simplicity and shun complexity.
15. You can only control the inputs to, not the performance of, your portfolio.
16. Successful investors focus on their goals and investment strategy, not on the stock market.
The long-term performance of your portfolio will be inversely proportional to how much you tinker with it. If you must peek, limit your stock market updates to Wednesdays and Fridays.
17. Your behavior as an investor will have a larger impact on your retirement lifestyle than the performance of your investments.
18. Your financial advisor should create a comprehensive and comprehensible financial plan that will keep you on course to your financial goals.
If you don’t have a financial plan – you don’t have a financial advisor.
19. Investing isn’t about hitting home runs — singles and doubles will serve you well in the long run and help you avoid making big mistakes.
20. Before getting into more consumer debt to impress your friends and neighbors remember this — one third won’t notice, one third won’t be impressed, and one third will think you’re a self-obsessed fool.
21. Maintain your optimism — the Perennial Pessimists have always been wrong, and there’s no reason to believe that their track record will change anytime soon.
Most people who provide financial advice are not required to act in a fiduciary capacity with their clients. They are not required to disclose conflicts of interest or recommend investments that are in their clients’ best interests — only those that are “suitable/” If your financial advisor isn’t acting in a fiduciary capacity with other clients, it’s unlikely that you’ll be treated differently.
The 99 rules all men should live by
1. Measure yourself only against your previous self.
2. Never cancel dinner plans with a woman by text message.
3. Ignore the boos. They usually come from the cheap seats.
4. You don’t have to keep every secret, just the important ones.
5. If you’re staying more than one night, unpack.
6. A suntan is not bought, it’s earned.
7. Place-dropping is worse than-name dropping.
8. Don’t fill up on bread.
9. You don’t have to like baseball, but you should understand the concept of what a pitcher’s ERA means. Approach life similarly.
10. A glass of wine or two with lunch will not ruin your day.
11. Appreciate your parents. When they die, you become an orphan.
12. “Remember when” is the lowest form of conversation.
13. It’s okay to forgive, as long as you don’t forget.
14. Never make a scene
15. Buy a tuxedo before you are thirty. Stay that size.
16. If you wear cologne, no one should smell it from five feet away or five minutes after you’ve left
17. When giving a toast, short and sweet is always best.
18. If you are wittier than you are handsome, avoid loud clubs.
19. Know when to ignore the camera.
20. Never take an ex back. She tried to do better and is settling with you.
21. Invest in great luggage.
22. Always carry cash.
23. Suck it up every now and then, especially for your family.
24. Never be the last one in the pool.
25. Don’t stare.
26. Read more. It allows you to borrow someone else’s brain.
27. Stand up to bullies. You’ll only have to do it once
28. Admit it when you’re wrong, and forgive yourself for your mistakes.
29. Take more pictures. With a camera.
30. If you offer to help, don’t quit until the job is done.
31. Know at least one good joke.
32. There’s always another level. Just be content knowing that you are still better off than most who have ever lived.
33. When you marry someone, remember you marry their entire family.
34. It’s okay to go to the movies by yourself.
35. If you don’t understand, ask before it’s too late.
36. Yes, of course you have to buy her dinner.
37. Never ask the same question twice.
38. Be kind. Life is hard enough as it is.
39. Know your way around a kitchen.
40. Set Goals. Write them down.
41. Stop talking about where you went to college.
42. Rebel from business casual. Burn your khakis and wear a suit or jeans.
43. It’s okay to trade the possibility of your 80s and 90s for more guaranteed fun in your 20s and 30s.
44. Never park in front of a bar.
45. Play competitive sports for as long as you can.
46. Never date an ex of your friend.
47. If riding the bus doesn’t incentivize you to improve your station in life, nothing will.
48. When the bartender asks, you should already know what you want to drink.
49. If you perspire, wear an undershirt.
50. Never stay out after midnight three nights in a row unless something really good comes up on the third night.
51. When people don’t invite you to a party, you really shouldn’t go. And sometimes even when you are invited, you shouldn’t go.
52. People get tired of you being the funny, drunk guy.
53. When in doubt, always kiss the girl.
54. Tip more than you should.
55. Always buy good shoes, sheets, and tires.
56. Put your cell phone away. You probably use it too often and at the wrong moments.
57. Eating out alone can be magnificent. Find a place where you can sit at the bar.
58. Do 50 push-ups, sit-ups, and dips before you shower each morning.
59. Eat brunch with friends as often as possible.
60. Be a regular at more than one bar.
61. Value a handful of truly close friends over a hundred acquaintances.
62. It’s better if old men cut your hair.
63. Learn how to fly-fish.
64. No selfies. Aspire to experience photo-worthy moments in the company of a wonderful companion.
65. Don’t split a check.
66. If you come from money, embrace it. We live in a world that rewards intelligence, creativity, and risk-taking.
67. When a bartender buys you a round, tip double.
68. The cliché is that having money is about not wasting time. But in reality, money is about facilitating spontaneity.
69. Be spontaneous.
70. Do not use an electric razor.
71. Desserts are for women. Order one and pretend you don’t mind that she’s eating yours.
72. One girlfriend at a time is probably enough.
73. Your ties should be rolled and placed in a sectioned tie drawer.
74. Throw parties. But have someone else clean up the next day.
75. Buy expensive sunglasses.
76. Act like you’ve been there before.
77. You may only request one song from the DJ.
78. Remember: You die twice, once when you stop breathing, and again when somebody mentions your name for the last time.
79. When you admire the work of artists or writers, tell them. And spend money to acquire their work.
80. Your clothes do not match. They go together.
81. Staying angry is a waste of energy.
82. Revenge can be a good way of getting over anger.
83. If she expects the person you are 20% of the time, 100% of the time, then she doesn’t want you.
84. Always bring a bottle of something to the party.
85. Avoid that “last” whiskey. You’ve probably had enough.
86. Don’t use the word “closure” or ever expect it in real life.
87. Drink outdoors. And during the day. And sometimes by yourself.
88. Don’t linger in the doorway, in or out.
89. Date women outside your social set. You’ll be surprised.
90. If it’s got velvet ropes and lines, walk away unless you know someone.
91. You cannot have a love affair with whiskey because whiskey will never love you back.
92. The New Yorker is not high-brow. Neither is The Economist.
93. No-one cares if you are offended, so stop it.
94. Hookers aren’t cool, but remember, the free ones are a lot more expensive.
95. Don’t ever say, “it is what it is.”
96. Don’t gamble any amount of money that will piss you off if you lose.
97. Give up the dad bod. You’re not Leonardo DiCaprio.
98. Remember: Rules are for the obedience of fools and the guidance of wise men.
99. You can get away with a lot more if you’re the one buying the drinks.
45 Life Lessons Written by a “90-Year-Old Woman”
- Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
- When in doubt, just take the next small step.
- Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
- Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
- Pay off your credit cards every month.
- You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
- Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
- Save for retirement, starting with your first paycheck.
- When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
- Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
- It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
- Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
- If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
- Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
- You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
- A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
- It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
- When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
- Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
- Overprepare, then go with the flow.
- Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
- The most important sex organ is the brain.
- No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
- Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
- Forgive everyone everything.
- What other people think of you is none of your business.
- Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
- However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
- Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
- Believe in miracles.
- Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
- Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
- Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
- Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
- If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
- Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
- Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
- All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
- Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
- The best is yet to come.
- No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
- Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
- If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
- Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.
If you want more inspiration from Regina Brett, check out her personal website!
5 ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage
1. Living outside of what you can afford
A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: “The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.”
Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about your finances.
Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires or racking up astronomical amounts of debt on your credit card is a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful spouse who works hard every day to provide for the family.
Yes, you may not have enough to buy that Kate Spade bag you’ve had your eyes on for months, but your husband will love and appreciate the fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides.
2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the street, your dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in between. As soon as your husband walks through the door, you launch into action and dump every negative and angry thought that’s crossed your mind throughout the day.
Can you imagine having to carry that burden? Negativity is draining. Men like to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints makes it difficult for him to help solve your pains.
If there is one thing I’ve learned from marriage is that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can’t help you do that, it makes him unhappy. It’s okay to have a bad day once in a while, that’s totally understandable, but don’t make it a way of life.
3. Putting everything else first
When your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career in front of your husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant. Imagine having that message sent to you every day for many years. What would that do to your self esteem?
Put your husband first.
Although it sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I think you’d be amazed to find that it’s often the key to the greatest happiness in marriage. So many couples get divorced these days, because they neglect to care and love one another and put each other first.
If you choose to put each other first, you will find a lot of joy.
4. Withholding physical affection
Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you constantly decline intimacy, it wears on them.
Sex should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God.
It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you — and you only. Even though you might not always be in the mood, it’s worth it to give in (when you can) and spend that time bonding.
5. Not speaking his language
Women love to drop hints. (I think it’s part of our DNA.) But men just don’t get them. (I think that is a part of their DNA.)
Don’t waste your time giving subtle hints that he won’t understand: Speak plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle things up until you burst. If he asks you what’s wrong, don’t respond with “nothing” and then expect him to read your mind and emotions. Be open about how you really feel.
4 key reasons why it matters to put your spouse before your children
The four key reasons
Your children need to see how marriage works
If you push your spouse down on your list of priorities, your children will believe that marriage isn’t all that important. On the other hand, if they see you honoring your spouse with that number one spot, they will feel a love and security that can come in no other way.
A young adult shared the following experience. She said, “When I was little I used to ask my mom who she loved the most, me or Dad. She always said, “Dad.” I asked him the same question, and he answered “Mom.” Of course, I knew they loved me, but I was always a little disappointed that they didn’t say they loved me the most. A few years later I asked them again and the answer they gave showed me on top, at last. They said they loved me the most. The funny thing is, it didn’t feel so good after all. It wasn’t the feeling I was expecting. I liked it better when they said they loved each other the most.” A few years later they were divorced. She said, “They needed to keep loving each other the most, then I might still have a mom and dad together. It’s sad.” (First published here)
Twin college coeds were counseling their younger sisters about what to look for in their future husband. They wrote: “Tonight when Dad comes home from work or meetings, listen to the first words he’ll say when he walks in the door: ‘Where’s my beautiful wife?’ Then watch as he searches the house to find her, just so he can kiss her to let her know he loves her. Notice how he’ll start helping with whatever he can right away, and how he makes every one of you feel so important as he asks about your day.”
Putting your spouse first does not diminish the love your children feel from you. It enhances it as long as you show love to them as well.
It creates a feeling of romance in your marriage
You know right off the top that you matter to your spouse, and that’s romantic. How open are you to respond with love and affection when you feel that you are the most important person in the world to your spouse? Keeping romance alive in marriage is crucial. And this is not just about “making love,” it’s about giving love in everyday little acts of caring that show your spouse how much he or she means to you. An unhappy wife told us that her husband meets the needs of everyone else first and rarely even notices hers. Are there times when a child’s needs come first? Of course, but not continually and not at the expense of your spouse. A father of three young children, when asked if he still had the top spot on his wife’s list of priorities, said, “I’m not even on the list.” He wasn’t laughing. Busy spouses must always find time to show their mates how important they are to them.
Children who are continually number one become self-centered
When they are practically worshiped at home by a parent, children go out into the world with an unrealistic view; one that says they are owed. In an article by physician Danielle Teller, titled “How American parenting is killing the American marriage,” she said, “Children who are raised to believe that they are the center of the universe have a tough time when their special status erodes as they approach adulthood. Most troubling of all, couples who live entirely child-centric lives can lose touch with one another to the point where they have nothing left to say to one another when the kids leave home… Is it surprising that divorce rates are rising fastest for new empty nesters?”
It helps everything else in your life go better
When your marriage is going well, it improves every other part of your life. If you have to spend time worrying about your marriage, it will take away from your productivity at work. Even more important, if you spend time fretting over marital problems, you have less time to devote to your children. There is only so much time and space in your life so keeping the marriage strong opens up more avenues for your relationship with your children to flourish. Keeping your spouse in that number one spot is what helps make that happen.
When divorce and remarriage enter the scene, it can be complicated. Where do the children of the first marriage fit? The new spouse deserves that number one spot, but that does not mean the children of a previous marriage are excluded. Children of divorce can feel left out and unloved if proper attention is not given to them. They may not be number one, but they need to be a very close number two, even if they are unlovable at times. They’re hurting. They need both of their natural parents’ love for them to thrive.
If you are a step-parent (some call it more lovingly — a bonus parent), then you need to be willing to welcome your current mate’s children into your lives and allow him or her to have time to enjoy their children. Bring them into a loving family where they can see that your current marriage is one of happiness and strength. It will give them a feeling of security they were missing before.
WRITTEN BY A 21 YEAR OLD FEMALE.
PUT ME IN CHARGE . . .
Put me in charge of food stamps. I’d get rid of Lone Star cards; no cash for Ding Dongs or Ho Ho’s, just money for 50-pound bags of rice and beans, blocks of cheese and all the powdered milk you can haul away. If you want steak and frozen pizza, then get a job.
Put me in charge of Medicaid. The first thing I’d do is to get women Norplant birth control implants or tubal ligations. Then, we’ll test recipients for drugs, alcohol, and nicotine. If you want to reproduce or use drugs, alcohol, or smoke, then get a job.
Put me in charge of government housing. Ever live in a military barracks? You will maintain our property in a clean and good state of repair. Your home” will be subject to inspections anytime and possessions will be inventoried. If you want a plasma TV or Xbox 360, then get a job and your own place.
In addition, you will either present a check stub from a job each week or you will report to a “government” job. It may be cleaning the roadways of trash, painting and repairing public housing, whatever we find for you. We will sell your 22 inch rims and low profile tires and your blasting stereo and speakers and put that money toward the “common good..”
Before you write that I’ve violated someone’s rights, realize that all of the above is voluntary. If you want our money, accept our rules. Before you say that this would be “demeaning” and ruin their “self esteem,” consider that it wasn’t that long ago that taking someone else’s money for doing absolutely nothing was demeaning and lowered self esteem.
If we are expected to pay for other people’s mistakes we should at least attempt to make them learn from their bad choices. The current system rewards them for continuing to make bad choices.
AND While you are on Gov’t subsistence, you no longer can VOTE! Yes, that is correct. For you to vote would be a conflict of interest. You will voluntarily remove yourself from voting while you are receiving a Gov’t welfare check. If you want to vote, then get a job.
The Husband Store
A brand new store has just opened in New York City that sells Husbands.
When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance:
You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors and the value of
the products increase as you ascend the flights. You may choose any item
from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you
CANNOT go back down except to exit the building.
So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
The 1st floor sign on the door reads:
Floor 1: These men have jobs.
The 2nd floor sign reads:
Floor 2: These men have Jobs and Love Kids.
The 3rd floor sign reads:
Floor 3: These men have Jobs, Love Kids and are extremely good looking.
“Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the 4th floor and the sign reads:
Floor 4: These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and help with Housework.
“Oh, mercy me!” she exclaims, “I can hardly stand it!”
Still, she goes to the 5th floor and sign reads:
Floor 5: These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, help with Housework and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6: You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor.
There are no men on this floor.
This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
To avoid gender bias charges, the store’s owner opens a New Wives store just across the street.
The 1st first floor has wives that love sex.
The 2nd floor has wives that love sex and have money.
The 3rd,4th, 5th and 6th floors have never been visited.
Five simple rules to be happy. A donkeys tale.
One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.
He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.
As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred – Forgive.
2. Free your mind from worries – Most never happens.
3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less from people but more from yourself.
THOSE TOP 37 THINGS YOU’LL REGRET WHEN YOU’RE OLD.
1. Not traveling when you had the chance.
Traveling becomes infinitely harder the older you get, especially if you have a family and need to pay the way for three-plus people instead of just yourself.
2. Not learning another language.
You’ll kick yourself when you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember none of it.
3. Staying in a bad relationship.
No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.
4. Forgoing sunscreen.
Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself. You can use Coconut oil!
5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.
“Nah, dude, I’ll catch Nirvana next time they come through town.” Facepalm.
6. Being scared to do things.
Looking back you’ll think, What was I so afraid of, comfort zone?
7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.
Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you’ll dream of what you could have done.
8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.
Few things are as sad as an old person saying, “Well, it just wasn’t done back then.”
9. Not quitting a terrible job.
Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don’t make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 years in hell.
10. Not trying harder in school.
It’s not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Eventually you’ll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you’d paid more attention.
11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.
Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that’s when we’re our most beautiful.
12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”
When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.
13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.
You don’t want to hear it when you’re young, but the infuriating truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true.
14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.
You’ll be embarrassed about it, frankly.
15. Caring too much about what other people think.
In 20 years you won’t give a darn about any of those people you once worried so much about.
16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.
Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine.
17. Not moving on fast enough.
Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.
18. Holding grudges, especially with those you love.
What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over?
19. Not standing up for yourself.
Old people don’t take sh*t from anyone. Neither should you.
20. Not volunteering enough.
OK, so you probably won’t regret not volunteering Hunger Games style, but nearing the end of one’s life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness for many.
21. Neglecting your teeth.
Neglecting your teeth.
Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.
22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.
Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you’ll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.
23. Working too much.
No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.
24. Not learning how to cook one awesome meal.
Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.
25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.
Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing.
26. Failing to finish what you start.
Failing to finish what you start.
“I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then…”
27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.
You will go to hundreds, if not thousands, of parties in your life. Wouldn’t it be cool to be the life of them all?
28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.
Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.
Don’t let them tell you, “We don’t do that.”
29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.
People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.
30. Not playing with your kids enough.
When you’re old, you’ll realize your kid went from wanting to play with you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.
31. Never taking a big risk (especially in love).
Knowing that you took a leap of faith at least once — even if you fell flat on your face — will be a great comfort when you’re old.
32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network.
Networking may seem like a bunch of crap when you’re young, but later on it becomes clear that it’s how so many jobs are won.
33. Worrying too much.
As Tom Petty sang, “Most things I worry about never happen anyway.”
34. Getting caught up in needless drama.
Who needs it?
35. Not spending enough time with loved ones.
Not spending enough time with loved ones.
Our time with our loved ones is finite. Make it count.
36. Never performing in front of others.
This isn’t a regret for everyone, but many elderly people wish they knew — just once — what it was like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.
37. Not being grateful sooner.
It can be hard to see in the beginning, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.
26 Mind-Blowing Psychology Facts That You Never Knew About People
- Any friendship that was born in the period between 16 and 28 years of age is more likely to be robust and long lasting.
- Women generally prefer men with deep husky voices because they seem more confident and not aggressive.
- The people who give the best advice are usually the ones with the most problems.
- The smarter the person is, the faster he thinks, and the sloppier his handwriting is.
- Our emotions don’t affect the way we communicate. In fact, the very opposite is true: the way we communicate has an influence on our mood.
- The way a person treats restaurant staff reveals a lot about their character.
- People who have a strong sense of guilt are better at understanding other people’s thoughts and feelings.
- Men are not funnier than women: they just make more jokes, not caring whether other people like their humor or not.
- Shy people talk little about themselves, but they do this in a way that makes other people feel that they know them very well.
- Women have twice as many pain receptors on their bodies than men, but they have a much higher pain tolerance.
- Listening to high-frequency music makes you feel calm, relaxed, and happy.
- If you can’t stop your stream of thoughts at night, get up and write them down. This will set your mind at ease so you can sleep.
- Good morning and good night text messages activate the part of the brain responsible for happiness.
- Doing things that scare you will make you happier.
- The average amount of time a woman can keep a secret is 47 hours and 15 minutes.
- People who try to keep everyone happy often end up feeling the loneliest.
- The happier we are, the less sleep we require.
- When you hold the hand of a loved one, you feel pain less keenly and worry less.
- Intelligent people tend to have less friends than the average person. The smarter the person is, the more selective they become.
- Marrying your best friend eliminates the risk of divorce by over 70%, and this marriage is more likely to last a lifetime.
- Women who have mostly male friends stay in a good mood more often.
- People who speak two languages may unconsciously shift their personalities when they switch from one language to another.
- Being alone for a long time is as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
- Travel boosts brain health and also decreases a person’s risk of heart attack and depression.
- People look more attractive when they speak about the things they are really interested in.
- When two persons talk to each other and one of them turns their feet slightly away or repeatedly moves one foot in an outward direction, this is a strong sign of disagreement, and they want to leave.